Accept my choices, but i will not accept yours! children's tactics of mate choice manipulation

Research output: Contribution to journalArticlepeer-review


Parents do not always agree with their children's mate choices, resulting in manipulation arising between the 2. One aspect of this is children using manipulation to prevent their parents imposing a mate on them and persuade them to accept their own choices. This article aims to identify the battery of acts that children employ to manipulate their parents and to classify them into broader manipulation tactics. It aims further to measure how effective these tactics are in altering parents' behavior. Study 1 identifies 45 acts that individuals use to manipulate their parents out of an undesirable relationship and 37 acts that children use on their parents to manipulate them into accepting a desirable relationship. Study 2 finds that for each scenario these acts can be classified into 7 broader tactics of manipulation. It finds also that daughters are more willing to use manipulation on their parents than sons, while younger individuals are more willing to use manipulation than older ones. Study 3 finds that parents are sensitive to this manipulation, with mothers being more sensitive to their children's manipulation than fathers.

Original languageEnglish
Pages (from-to)128-139
Number of pages12
JournalEvolutionary Behavioral Sciences
Issue number2
Publication statusPublished - 1 Apr 2015


  • Manipulation
  • Mate choice
  • Parent-offspring conflict
  • Parent-offspring conflict over mating
  • Parental choice


Dive into the research topics of 'Accept my choices, but i will not accept yours! children's tactics of mate choice manipulation'. Together they form a unique fingerprint.

Cite this